Bride-to-be divides opinion with ‘transparency contracts’ that state her bridesmaids don’t need to host a shower or sit at the head table but do have to pay for their own dresses and $500 for the bachelorette party
- Lisa Torres, from California, said she was scared of coming across as a ‘bridezilla’ when she wrote a list of 10 commitments she expected her bridesmaid to follow
- Said the bridesmaids could ‘say no’ without repercussion and was called ‘mature’
- Told bridemaids that lived more than an hour away they didn’t have to come dress shopping and also said they’d need to fork out $500 on the bacherlorette
A bride-to-be has split opinion after revealing she sent her friends a letter with 10 commitments and financial expectations they’d have to make as a bridesmaid.
Lisa Torres, from California, said she was scared of coming across as a ‘bridezilla’ but wanted to be transparent with her friends after being a bridesmaid in the past and being unaware of the cost and time commitment before agreeing.
In a TikTok video which has racked up more than 3.5M views, the corporate employee shared the tip she used to be ‘more transparent with her bridal party.’
The letter sent to her bridemaids included that they would be expected to go on all all-inclusive weekend to Mexico to celebrate the bachelorette party and that they would need to pay for their own dresses, a standard practice in the US.
Many praised her saying that the it was a ‘mature way’ to tackle potentially awkward conversations, while others said that the engaged couple should be covering all costs.
A bride-to-be has split opinion after revealing she sent her friends a letter with 10 commitments and financial expectations they’d have to make as a bridesmaid. Lisa Torres, from California, said she was scared of coming across as a ‘bridezilla’ but wanted to be transparent with her friends after being a bridesmaid in the past and being unaware of the cost and time commitment before agreeing. Her letter is pictured
In a TikTok video which has racked up more than 3.5M views, the corporate employee shared the tip she used to be ‘more transparent with her bridal party.’ Her letter is pictured
‘I felt very insecure doing this, but I’m ultimately glad that I did and that was, include a letter of what I expected from my bridal party,’ Lisa said in the clip.
‘Before I got engaged I was a bridesmaid before, and I wasn’t fully aware of all the costs and expectations associated with being a bridesmaid,’ she added.
‘In that letter, I outlined time commitments, so I told them if they lived over an hour away, they didn’t have to worry about making it to the bridal shower or to go wedding dress shopping with me, it was fine.
‘I also specified money commitments, so I told them I would pay for their hair and and makeup, but that they would be responsible for the cost of the bridesmaid dress – although they had freedom over what style they wanted, I just asked for a specific colour.’
Lisa also told her friends that they could turn down the offer of being bridesmaid if they didn’t want the commitments and that there would be ‘no hard feelings’.
The letter sent to her bridemaids included that they would be expected to go on all all-inclusive weekend to Mexico to celebrate the bachelorette party and that they would need to pay for their own dresses, a standard practice in the US. Lisa is pictured
Lisa also told her friends that they could turn down the offer of being bridesmaid if they didn’t want the commitments and that there would be ‘no hard feelings’.
‘I told them that they could say no to being a bridesmaid, that we would still be friends and they could still keep all the gifts in the bridesmaid proposal box. One of them said no and we’re still good friends.’
Many praised Lisa for her thoughtful and mature approach to the situation.
‘Honestly this is awesome, removes questions and is all reasonable,’ said one.
Many praised Lisa for her thoughtful and mature approach to the situation, but some thought she was asking too much
‘If someone asked me to be their bridesmaid with this I would be so much better and less stressed,’ wrote another.
‘Very healthy way of going about things, I love this,’ added a third.
‘If I could go back in time I would do this,’ said another, ‘it would save so many hurt feelings on the bridemaid that didn’t live up to my expectations’
However, others were less sure of the approach, with one saying: ‘You should pay for your wedding’s EVERYTHING’.
‘If my fiance and I couldn’t afford it i’d just have a smaller wedding party,’ said another.